I Actually Like Working Out

Thursday, September 16, 2021



I didn’t think that I would fall in love with working out in 2021, but here we are. I’ve always known that working out is good for you, but forcing myself to take better care of myself truly changed how I felt.

Going into working out regularly, I had to take the focus away from the numbers. I didn’t want to look at a scale and see if I lost weight. I didn’t want to work out to change my body to fit a certain standard. Body size doesn’t determine if someone is healthy or not. The only focus I wanted was to simply move my body and make it stronger.

1. I feel good emotionally, mentally, and physically
Aside from having more energy on a regular basis, I found that I was happier and calmer than ever before. The time I took everyday for working out allowed me to destress in a way I had never done before. This was especially helpful on days I had a rough workday. I began to use working out to release the tension stored in my body which was an amazing feeling.

2. I sleep better
I was initially nervous about working out at night since I’m not a morning person. But I didn’t have anything to be worried about. I began to sleep extremely well on the nights I worked out right before going to bed. My body felt good, but the tiredness really helped me relax.

3. It’s time just for me
There is nothing I hate more than when people try to talk to you when you’re working out. I am the kind of person who needs her phone and headphones to get through a workout. I want to watch a show or catch up on YouTube videos and forget about the world. It’s actually amazing to take time out of my busy day just for me.

Again, I want to make it clear that I am not working out to lose weight or to change the shape of my body. I am truly doing it because I'm a lot more stationary than I should be. Any and all of the changes that I am taking note of have nothing to do with how my body works.
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What I Learned From Journaling Everyday for 30 Days

Monday, September 13, 2021



In July of this year, I decided that I would try journaling for thirty days straight. I have journaled on and off since I was very young but I have never kept up the habit like this. I knew I wanted to try and document everything that was going on in my life. I wish I had started doing so when 2020 first began, but better late than never.

Since I knew this challenge wouldn’t be an easy one, I had to figure out ways to make this process as easy as possible. Here are the three things I did:

1. Journaling questions and prompts
While I initially only wanted to create a list for 30 days, I decided to go all out and create a list of 365 prompts and questions. While I didn’t think I would use them everyday, I knew that having this document handy would be very helpful.

2. One page a day
This was the only restriction I put on myself. I knew that doing any other restriction wouldn’t be helpful. I did know that I needed something to keep me accountable. One page a day was easy to remember and enough space for me to actually write about the day.

3. Journals and pens
If I was going to challenge myself to such a task, I knew that I had to have some fun with it. As a lifelong writer, I have an immense love for journals/notebooks and pens. So for this challenge, I got out my journal that I love and made sure I had my favorite pens handy.

Now that I had those three aspects of this challenge figured out, the next step was simple: actually write in my journal. This turned out to be harder than I thought it would be. I am the kind of person who has to handwrite my journal. The permanency of journaling by hand, I have come to find, is terrifying. This is probably why I have not always written in journals in the past. Once the words are down on paper, you don’t have many options. You can rip out the pages but then you know the pages are gone. If you cross out all of the words, you can see that result on paper. You get the idea.

In the end, I pushed through it. I found that I loved having the questions/prompts because it gave me some direction. If there were days where I was exhausted, I simply looked to see what I had to write. Once I moved past my initial hesitation, I found that I truly loved journaling. So, here are the five things I’ve learned since journaling everyday for 30 days.

1. Writing is truly how I process my emotions
While I have a variety of self care habits that help me process my emotions, I found that nothing worked better for me than writing in a journal. Whether it was answering a question or just venting about my day, the process was truly cathartic.

2. This forces me to take time to simply be
In true Aries fashion, I love to move. Whether it’s dancing or walking or going to the gym, I am not the kind of person who likes to stop unless I’m sleeping. Journaling every day forced me to take at least thirty minutes out of my day to actively stop, sit and contemplate. I learned that I usually put too much strain on my body and that it needed a lot more rest than I was giving it.

3. The mundane moments matter
Reading back to some of my entries now, I have come to truly appreciate the random little moments of life that happen. It could be as simple as what I ate for the day or what my commute to work was like, but I found that it was important to write down. I had to consider how I spent my free time and if it was actually beneficial to me.

4. I wish I had been consistent earlier
This is the one aspect of journaling I wish I had learned earlier. I wish that I hadn’t allowed my fear of permanency to get me to stop writing down my life moments. Obviously, this is not something I can change from my past, but I can absolutely make a difference in my future.

5. I can see the progress
This actually surprised me when I look back at my words from early July. I wasn’t in the best mental state for a variety of reasons, but I could also see how much change had occurred in my life in just 30 days. I can’t wait to see what my progress is going to be like in the future.

I am excited to see how far I can go with journaling. I decided after a while that I would try and actually write everyday for an entire year. I want to be able to look back on a year’s worth of journal entries to see the progress. I want to be able to see where I was emotionally, mentally, physically and professionally. At this moment I am getting very close to 100 days of journaling everyday which is absolutely wild to me. I can’t wait until I reach the 365 day mark. Maybe I’ll even share some snippets on the blog in the future.
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The Writing Diaries (5): Starting Over

Thursday, September 9, 2021


At the beginning of the year, I had two writing goals: one, I want to plot my historical romance series, and two, I want to have two completed manuscripts. Thus far, I have only plotted out hlaf of the series and haven't finished a single manuscript. That is what I want to work on changing. Here's three things I am changing in the next couple of months to reach this goal. At the time of writing this post, Septmeber 3, we have 121 days left in 2021. I want to make the most of them.

1. Going back to the basics
Recently I had a renewed desire to write fiction. I kept thinking about certain characters, their stories, and how much I wanted to tell them. So, I took out a notebook and blue pen and began writing. There was something magical in putting pen to paper because I ended up writing several pages of a story. While this was a random scene that had come to me, I loved the process of writing them down. They were no logner in my head.

So, the first thing I'm doing is going back to the basics. As much as I love typing and using my phoen and laptop to tell stories, I function best with pen and paper. Specifically, a notebook with college ruled paper and a blue pen. I always use my favorite pens of all time, the PaperMate Profile 1.4B, for any and all writing things. As much as I appreciate gel pens, these pens have changed writing for me.

2. A little goes a long way
After I went back to the basics, I had to understand that I couldn't go at the writing pace of anyone else but me. Aside from the fact that I love having an outline, and knowing that I need an outline no matter what, I wasn't the fastest writer. Writing by hand takes time, yes, but for me it was more than that. I needed to put more thought into the words I put on paper. I try my hardest not to edit as I go, and I've gotten really good at that, but I have to like the words I use.

Which is all to say that I don't force myself to write too much every day. I write about 200-500 words a day or at last 5 pages front and back. I love having a goal to meet but I also don't like when the goal to too confining for me.

3. National Novel Writing Month 2021
My goal this year is to finish an entire manuscript during NaNoWriMo. I think that I'm going to try an adult romance but I don't know the genre as of yet. While I work through writing another manuscript up until NaNoWriMo, I am getting excited for this writing adventure.

I am hoping that I can write two manuscripts in the time remaining in 2021. While I wish I had started earlier in the year, and I hate that I didn't, there's nothing I can do to change that now. I'm excited to keep everyone updated on what I choose to write.
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The Legal Diaries (1): Starting The LSAT Prep...Again

Monday, September 6, 2021


Before I left for China in 2019, I took the Law School Admission Test aka the LSAT. While I had studied for it for months, I didn't realize how ineffective it was until I got my score back. It was...not a good score to be sure. I was very disappointed in myself and it impacted my ability to see myself being successful in this area. But hingsight is 20/20 because I now recognize that I didn't give as much time and effort into learning the exam as I should have. I didn't spend as much time studying as I should have and I most definitely didn't give it my all.

I now have a more concrete study plan that I thought I could share here. There's nothing like sharing things on the internet that pushes you to actully hold yourself accountable.

1. Study for 15 hours a week.
I wanted to start consistently studying for the exam without during myself out. 15 hours a week is about two hours a day which is pretty doable for me. I want to take the exam in Janaury 2022 and I know that I have to put effort into my studying.

2. Keep track of my progress
I hate the idea that I'm not actully retaining what I am studying because it makes me question why I'm doing it to beging with. So hopefully this helps alleviate that anxiety by having numbers that show how much I'm improving.

3. Don't stress over it
Considering the fact that this exam costs $200 to take is reason enough to stress over it, I find that it doesn't help me. I have to think of taking this exam has an investment into my future. I already know that I'm not the best test takes, and standardized exams are even worese for me. But if I truly study my hardest and give this exam my best, there is no reason for me to question my ability.

In the end, if going to law school is what's meant for me, then it will happen. I will have to find the time and energy to study for the exam and make it happen. Maybe in the future, as I continue to study for this exam, I'll relaize that this isn't meant for me. For now, this is the path I am choosing to pursue.
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How to Start Again

Thursday, September 2, 2021


Trying to make a comeback with blogging and writing turned out to be a lot harder than I thought it would be. I had to really plan and think about what I was going to do differently in order to not burnout anymore. So, here are some of the ways in which I am doing this comeback differently than others in the past.

1. Mind shift change: Consistency over Perfection 

 Being a lifelong perfectionist, this has been one of the hardest shifts to make in my life. Not just with blogging, but also in other aspects of my life. In terms of blogging, however, I had to understand that consistently posting was more important than not posting for months because a post wasn't perfect. For example, I try really hard with my grammar but I know that I make a ton of mistakes. Making mistakes is human and I don't know anyone who has perfect grammar at all times. Obviously, I don't want to post filler content but I have a tendency to be far too strict with the topics I post.   

2. If at first you don't succeed, try again and again and again 

 I mean, this is an age old saying but in all seriousness, it applies so well to blogging. We are only human and we all make mistakes and we aren't always successful. For example, I failed miserably at the 365 in 365 posts challenges I had. Failing at that challenge, however, didn't mean that I can't continue to post regularly on the blog. This is what I'm doing now. 

3. Do it at your own pace 

As seen with the first point, I tend to be a perfectionist when it comes to blogging. This leads to me having a ton of anxiety and self doubt when it comes to the content I produce. I want to keep up with other bloggers. I want to try and have a successful blog where people read the words I write. And this can lead to me wanting to keep up with other bloggers at their pace and not my own. 

So, there you have it! Three things I'm trying to do regularly to start blogging again and to keep it up! 

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Hello, Again

Tuesday, August 31, 2021


There is something magical, I think, in trying again. I never used to feel this ways, especially during my undergraduate years, but it's been so freeing to be here now. I really thought about giving up on this blog and shutting this down. What was the point of posting here, over and over, when I seemed to be failing? How could I say that I loved writing and this blog but fail to post anything?


In the end, I had to go back to my why. Why did I have this blog? Why was aI doing this to begin with? And the why was always about having my own personal place in this world to share with people. Obviously, I have no idea if someone is actully reading these posts, but maybe someday. Anyways, once I got back to the why, I had to figure out the how. Which is what I'm doing now.

Hello, again.

My name's Akchita and this is my little blog. I've been blogging since I was fourteen years old and it's wild for me to even consider myself being that young. I have had numerous blogs throughout the years, but this is my first personal/lifestyle blog. I love to read, write, cook and dance, not necessarily in that order.

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27 Things In My 27th Year: This Is Just The Beginning

Friday, April 30, 2021

This Is Just The Beginning 

Well, April has come and gone and I have turned 27 now. Spending an entire month looking on my life, coming up with life lessons to tell my younger (or future self), and trying to live through this pandemic has been a lot. These posts have forced me to take a step back and really consider my life. There’s something humbling about putting twenty six years into a certain numbers of words. Trying to put my life into words really made me appreciate where I came from, where I’ve been and where I still have to go.

And I guess the one thing that I have learned, in a surprising way, is that this is just the beginning. No matter what I would like to think, we all have our own thoughts about aging. I remember when I was younger that I thought being thirty was so old. I thought that by their late twenties and early thirties, adults had their lives figured out. In some ways, there wasn’t more to want out of life at this age. To find out that this wasn’t true was a shock to the system. I feel like more of myself than ever before. Frankly, I think that I have, in some ways, become the best version of myself.

So, in so many words, I am content with where I am in my life right now. There are aspects of my life that I wish I could change, and there are choices I question, but in the grand scheme of things, I’m happy. I didn’t think that I’d make it to my twenties and now I can’t wait for my thirties.
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Write It All Down

Thursday, April 29, 2021

Write It All Down

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27 Things In My 27th Year: You Are Enough

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

You Are Enough  

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Learn To Move On

Tuesday, April 27, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Numbers Don't Determine Your Worth

Monday, April 26, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Don’t apologize for wanting more

Sunday, April 25, 2021

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Be thankful for what you have

Saturday, April 24, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Don’t strive for perfection

Friday, April 23, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Romantic relationships aren’t everything

Thursday, April 22, 2021

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Keep your eyes on your own journey

Wednesday, April 21, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: You are loved

Tuesday, April 20, 2021

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Your optimism is actually pretty great

Monday, April 19, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Never be afraid to ask for help

Sunday, April 18, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Books will forever be your friends

Saturday, April 17, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Keep up with the writing

Friday, April 16, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Nurture your spiritual journey

Thursday, April 15, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: You are not alone

Wednesday, April 14, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Stay true to your beliefs

Tuesday, April 13, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: You're 27 Today

Monday, April 12, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Finding a healthy balance is important

Sunday, April 11, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: People believe in you

Saturday, April 10, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: But a whole lot of other people do

Friday, April 9, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: People will not like you

Thursday, April 8, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: Believe in your intuition

Wednesday, April 7, 2021

Question of the Day: 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: You’ll learn to handle your losses

Tuesday, April 6, 2021

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Celebrate your wins

Monday, April 5, 2021

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Progress isn’t linear

Sunday, April 4, 2021

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27 Things In My 27th Year: Forgive Yourself

Saturday, April 3, 2021

Forgive Yourself 

To this day, forgiving myself for past mistakes has been the hardest aspect of being an adult. No matter how much time passes and how much therapy I've been in, I continue to struggle. 
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27 Things In My 27th Year: You Will Make It

Friday, April 2, 2021

You Will Make It

CW: Suicide

As you currently type this, you’re living in the same room where you thought you would say your last goodbye. Instead, you’re twenty six, going on twenty seven, an age you never thought you’d reach. So, in many ways, this is for nineteen year old me, who didn’t think she’d be here today. This is for the girl who was so lost that she felt like there was only one way out. This is for the girl who thought that she needed to make a certain life decision. 

You will make it. 

It hasn’t always been easy and it will continue to be complicated but making it thus far has been worth it. The ups and downs have all led to moments in life that you will cherish forever, but also moments that will always make you cringe. After all, that is the beauty of life.

Through out all of the bullshit and the hard times and the good times you didn't think you deserved, you will make it. You'll fall in and out of love. You'll make friends and lose friends. You'll be incredibly happy and you'll be unbearably sad. 

You will make it.
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27 Things In My 27th Year: 27 things I tell my younger self

Thursday, April 1, 2021

I instantly knew what I wanted to talk about when it came to the month of April. On the 12th, I will be turning 27 and I figured this was a good time as any to talk about things that I’ve learned over the years. There’s a sort of peace that comes in realizing I’m closer to 30 than 20. My 20s were incredibly unexpected and I won’t be ending this decade where I originally thought I would be.

That’s part of the reason why I wanted to do the series: if younger me could see where I am now, she would be appalled. The fact that I won’t have graduated from law school by 30 or be in a relationship or be living in New York City is not something I anticipated for myself. However, I am, after a very long time, very happy with where I am in my life. Taking time off after my undergraduate degree was the best decision I could have made for myself. And now, I want to share what I've learned in the past 27 years.

I didn’t categorize any of the advice that I have in any specific order. I sat down and it simply wrote down a list of 27 things I wanted to tell my younger self. I thought about categorizing everything and doing a weekly theme but that ended up being too constricting. And isn’t life too messy to categorize easily? Either way, I am so happy with how these posts turned out. I can’t wait to go back and read this list as I grow older and see how true everything continues to be for me.
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Too Good To Be True?

Friday, March 12, 2021


 

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The Writing Diaries: Writing Again

Thursday, March 11, 2021


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Habits Are Hard

Wednesday, March 10, 2021


 

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The Writing Diaries:

Thursday, March 4, 2021


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Taylor Swift-a-Thon: evermore

Wednesday, March 3, 2021

One of the most unexpected parts of 2020 was Taylor Swift release of her eighth studio album folklore. When she announced that evermore, her ninth studio album was going to be released, I was beyond excited. Folklore has become one of my favorite albums she has ever put out and I was beyond excited to listen to the sister album. Well folklore is still my favorite of the set, I really enjoyed evermore. I knew that I couldn’t leave off this album so I am going to talk about my favorite lyrics from this album. evermore was released on December 11, 2020.
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I Don't Know How To Be Okay

Tuesday, March 2, 2021



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This Is Exhausting

Monday, March 1, 2021


I’m not entirely sure why I thought that this would be a good idea. Why did I think that writing and posting 365 one post and 365 days was a good idea? No, I am in the third month of the year so it’s early enough where if I want to give this up or modify it I can, but I truly don’t want to. This is a challenge us up for myself and I want to meet. However, to make this a little bit easier for myself I have decided to change things up.

When I began egin this fun project, I had the idea to have a theme for every single month. I wanted to write posts that would surround that theme. In January I wrote posts about the goals that I had and what I was looking forward to in the new year. February was obviously focusing on Black History Month. But when it came to the content for March, I could not figure out a theme. And the more I’ve brainstormed, the more frustrated I became. Eventually I realize that I was exhausted with his planning. So, for the month of March I will be posting every single day but there will be a variety of posts. I definitely want to go back to posting more about my writing and the job hunt and potential for some more personal posts. I think that in order to keep my creative juices flowing it would be best that I alternate months. One month for example would be a themed month and the next month would be random posts.

If there’s one thing I have learned from 2020 that I want to take into 2021 and make each other, it is with the idea of reevaluating as needed (which coincidentally is going to be the post for tomorrow). I want my 365 and 365 goal to not only be met but for the experience to be a good one. I’m once again excited to see the future of this blog and where I go with it.
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The Last Day of Black History Month

Sunday, February 28, 2021

It's hard for me to beleive that we have oficially come to the end of Black History Month. As a non-Black woman of color, and someone from a community that is rife with anti-Blackness, I know that I have a responsibility to work through my own biases. For this month, I wanted to focus on Black movies that dealt with a variety of issues in the Black community. Along the same time I wanted to include quotes by Black people in history that are meaningful to me. I am someone who loves quotes of all kinds and watches more movies than she should. This felt like the perfect combination.

But more than the posts for this month, I want to do better in terms of the content that I am consuming to begin with. I shouldn't focus on just Black books/movies/shows/music in just the month of February. Of the 20 books I've read this year, I have only read six books by Black authors. I need to do better in terms of how many Black authors I read. But anyways, here is a list of all of the posts from this month:

The Movies
Moonlight
Selma
Last Holiday 
The Photograph
If Beale Street Could Talk
Sylvie’s Love
Cinderella (1997)
Love and Basketball
The Hate U Give
Hidden Figures
Just Wright
Akeelah and the Bee
Jingle Jangle
Spider-Man Into the Spider-Verse

The People
bell hooks
Anna Julia Cooper
James Baldwin
Ella Baker
Langston Hughes
Malcolm X
Octavia Butler
Zora Neale Hurston
Audre Lorde
Toni Morrison
Alice Walker
Gwendolyn Brooks
Maya Angelou
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Black History Month: Moonlight

Saturday, February 27, 2021

Movie Of The Day: 

Director: Barry Jenkins 
Writer: Barry Jenkins (screenplay), Tarell Alvin McCraney (story)  
Release: January 9, 2015
Cast
Mahershala Ali
Naomie Harris
Trevante Rhodes 
Shariff Earp 
Duan Sanderson 
Janelle Monáe 
Naomie Harris
A young African-American man grapples with his identity and sexuality while experiencing the everyday struggles of childhood, adolescence, and burgeoning adulthood. --IMDb
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Black History Month: bell hooks

Friday, February 26, 2021

I read bell hook for the first time in college and her work has stuck with me ever since. I knew I wanted to feature her this month. Choosing only these five quotes ended up being incredibly hard but I hope I have done her justice. 

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Black History Month: Selma

Thursday, February 25, 2021

Movie Of The Day: 

Director: Ava DuVernay 
Writer: Paul Webb  
Release: January 9, 2015
Cast
David Oyelowo
Carmen Ejogo
Oprah Winfrey 
Jim France
A chronicle of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.'s campaign to secure equal voting rights via an epic march from Selma to Montgomery, Alabama, in 1965. --IMDb
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Black History Month: Anna Julia Cooper

Wednesday, February 24, 2021


I first came across the work of Anna Julia Cooper in college, during one of my Women and Gender Studies classes, when I had to write a paper on feminism. As a woman of color, I knew that I wanted to focus on Black and women of color activists who had talked about feminism. Cooper's work introduced me to Black feminism. I read A Voice From the South and her work has stayed with me throughout the years.

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Black History Month: Last Holiday

Tuesday, February 23, 2021

Movie Of The Day: 

Director: Wayne Wang 
Writer: Jeffrey Price, Peter S. Seaman, J.B. Priestley  
Release: January 13, 2006
Cast
Queen Latifah
LL Cool J
Timothy Hutton
Giancarlo Esposito
Upon learning of a terminal illness, a shy woman decides to sell off all her possessions and live it up at a posh Central-European hotel. --IMDb
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Black History Month: James Baldwin

Monday, February 22, 2021


James Baldwin was a writer, activist, playwright, and poet among other things. I was first introduced to his work in high school but it wasn't until college that I took a deep dive through more of his writing. I read several essays from Notes of a Native Son and his novel, If Beale Street Could Talk, was adapted into an award winning movie. 

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